25 April, 2019 at 11:24 #229LucyParticipant
Is there anyone here who has a partner or is married to someone with depression?
Were they the ones to seek help? Or did you have to push them into it?
When someone is clearly struggling…how did you encourage them to take that step?25 April, 2019 at 11:39 #230
It took me a long time to convince my husband to goto the doctor. Infact I had to be willing to go myself first a few times as part of the commitment for him to go. I had to evidence that it wasn’t me with the depression.
It finally took an ultimatum if I’m honest.
Once he went he engaged with the process very positively and I am very proud of him.
Taking that first step is really hard though.29 April, 2019 at 16:25 #259MickMilnerParticipant
I was lucky my partner went to seek help fairly quickly, but then women talk about things more easily that men.1 May, 2019 at 08:08 #266LucyParticipant
Thanks for the comments!
That’s good advice Amanda. Meeting them half way…I guess it shows you’re willing to help support them x14 May, 2019 at 07:58 #499MickMilnerParticipant
Does anyone have any experience of the right help? I’m not convinced the help my other half gets is that brilliant?14 May, 2019 at 19:45 #500
You have raised a very interesting point! From my own observations around therapy in particular its so important to connect with your therapist, if there is no connection there can’t be trust and respect and this is essential for the therapy to work. I am basing this observation on my training as a Life Coach as well as my experiences with therapists personally and though my husband.
Don’t be afraid to encourage those close to you to try someone else if they feel they are not making progress with the person they are currently seeing.
I hope that helps.21 May, 2019 at 14:39 #541Pops_Man_Participant
I’m really interested in this thread. My best friend won’t accept any help and he’s really, REALLY struggling.
I’ve tried to talk to him in so many ways; being kind and gentle, shouting to shake some sense into him. I don’t really what to try now, I feel at the end of my tether!!!22 May, 2019 at 07:51 #547AndreapParticipant
Pops_Man_ it’s so frustrating when you can’t figure out why someone is acting a certain way!
As his friend, do you know of any underlying issues he never talks about?24 June, 2019 at 09:48 #667
How is your friend getting on?
Its so hard admitting something to yourself. There are feelings of fear, self doubt and self judgement. Whilst not an easy task perhaps help him to be kinder to himself and then perhaps he will be willing to seek help?
Amanda5 July, 2019 at 14:27 #688Pops_Man_Participant
Hello Amanda. Thanks for checking in on me. I don’t think he is doing brilliant to be honest? He is drifting further away from me and I feel like I’ve had to let him go for now. It is really tearing me up inside, but I don’t know what more I can do at the moment. Sadly.
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