How do I start talking about this?

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  • #250
    louis
    louis
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    Hi Glad to find this but don’t really know how to use it as I find it hard to talk about this. My wife has a mental illness and my generation don’t talk about these things. I don’t know how, but I know I want too.

    #251
    Amanda
    Amanda
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    Hi Louis,
    I’m sorry it’s taken me some time to respond to you. As our community grows I know you will receive quicker responses.
    For me, you have taken the first and the hardest step by posting your message. Next step I think it to just say what you feel you want to say. Just by typing it out and sending it out to the forum will be a release.
    I know how hard it can be to change the way something is done, I know my parents wouldn’t talk about things such as mental illness, today though it’s becoming a lot easier and I would hope no-one in this community would think badly of you. We also don’t think you would be betraying anyone or letting anyone down, it’s only by caring for ourselves can we care for those we love.
    Good luck and welcome.

    #260
    MickMilner
    MickMilner
    Participant

    Louis, I haven’t started posting my own stuff yet either, only really replied to a few. I’m warming up.

    #267
    Lucy
    Lucy
    Participant

    Hello to you both Louis & Mick! Welcome! We’re all here for you when you’re ready ;O)

    I agree talking about it is the first step. You’ll get no judgement here from us!

    #484
    Amanda
    Amanda
    Keymaster

    Hi Louis, How are you getting on? How is your wife? Was today a good day?

    #502
    Rach99
    Rach99
    Participant

    Louis, I just want to say I get this. My husband has depression and I find it very hard and have been fortunate to have a few close friends I talk to but then I don’t always talk to them because frankly I don’t always want too, or can’t be bothered too because I’m exhausted by it all!
    Anyway, the point is I find it helpful to talk. How about telling us 1 thing, just a little thing.

    #503
    Andreap
    Andreap
    Participant

    This is a good question. I find I ask myself this all the time; how? Where do I start? What is the answer? We are all still trying to figure this out.

    Just remember, nothing you feel is wrong and we are all here to be your soundboard and support each other x

    #509
    Amanda
    Amanda
    Keymaster

    Hi Louis, I feel like you are unsure of how to start or perhaps unsure of whether you can. Please know that this is a safe place. It’s whole purpose is to be a safe place where we can all come together and support eachother. There will be no judgement here, just friendly rocks. I would start with something small and see where it takes you, dip your toe in.

    #511
    louis
    louis
    Participant

    My wife won’t get out of bed today.

    #512
    Amanda
    Amanda
    Keymaster

    Thank you for sharing that with us Louis. That has to be hard, is it unusual for her not to want to get out of bed?

    #513
    louis
    louis
    Participant

    Every now and then she gets like this, it can last a number of days. Just makes me very lonely and a bit down, we are in our twilight years so time is short.

    #524
    MickMilner
    MickMilner
    Participant

    Wow, has your wife been able to get up today? I can imagine this is lonely, can you go out or can’t you leave her alone?

    #536
    louis
    louis
    Participant

    I can’t leave her alone, I don’t want to either. we have been together a long time. I’d like her to talk to me and even if she could just get out of bed and sit with me, that would be a start.

    #537
    MickMilner
    MickMilner
    Participant

    That sounds very lonely, do you have any friends who she feels comfortable enough with who can come over and keep you company?

    #544
    Amanda
    Amanda
    Keymaster

    It looks like you’ve taken a first step Louis, that’s HUGE! May I be the first to say well done, I hope that doesn’t sound rude. It really is a big thing to start to open up.
    I’m sorry to hear your wife is still in bed though. I know this isn’t the same, by any stretch, however when my mum was unwell we would move her bed closer to the window to give her a bit more interest. Once we even took her bed outside. Maybe closer to the window, especially when it’s sunny?

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