1 May, 2019 at 08:15 #268
Just wondering if anyone had any tips…what do you do to look after yourself? Is there something you do daily or weekly that is just for you? To help your mental well being? How do you make it a priority?
I walk the dog. Every day, rain or shine. Even when I don’t feel like it, she still has to go out! And it really helps! I rarely see anyone, I think a lot. Sometimes I even talk to myself!
I’d really love to try something like yoga, but I’ve always been too scared! All that Lycra and bending over ;O)
Would love to hear what you all do?6 May, 2019 at 19:10 #401HappyChickenParticipant
I do Pilates and love it – you really should try yoga if you want to, nothing to be scared of! Maybe go with a friend to start off with? You can also do it at home, when you know what you’re doing x7 May, 2019 at 06:27 #408
Ooo pilates…I’ve not really looked into that! Do they use machines or am I totally making that up?!
There’s a new yoga group starting in my village…I think I’ll take the plunge!!7 May, 2019 at 09:14 #411AliMParticipant
I’m currently enjoying a cup of coffee on my own and not feeling guilty that I should be something else. Tonight I’m having a catch up with some of my lovely girlfriends, where wine and laughter will be the perfect end to the day. Sometimes it’s the little things that make such a difference.7 May, 2019 at 10:32 #413AliMParticipant
I’m currently enjoying a cup of coffee on my own and not feeling guilty that I should be doing something else. Tonight I’m having a catch up with some of my lovely girlfriends, where wine and laughter will be the perfect end to the day. Sometimes it’s the little things that make such a difference.7 May, 2019 at 11:18 #415
Couldn’t agree more! I don’t know where I’d be without my girls! ;O)7 May, 2019 at 19:44 #452AndreapParticipant
I love to clean and de-cluter. Since moving out of my parents house with my partner, I used to get very stressed about our flat, feeling like it never was quite up to the standard I was used to living in with my Mum. I then found a way of turning my love for a tidy, clean home into a positive. I also love music, so recently putting my favourite songs on and having a good clean, dancing around my flat, clears my mind and soul!
Try it! Get your hands dirty, youll feel great, I promise!8 May, 2019 at 10:00 #462
You’re welcome to come and do mine?! Haha!!!
I agree completely…when my house is untidy, I feel like it’s caving in on me!11 May, 2019 at 19:59 #486VSanderdParticipant
I find it very hard for me time without feeling guilty. It’s definitely something I’m working on. As I have Bipolar I either push myself to my limits or spend my day’s with no motivation struggling to get by and feeling very guilty.I find the balance very hard. I’m learning to do the things that I actually enjoy and not the things I think I should enjoy. Reading helps, walking, watching things I enjoy, chatting with friends and cleaning also works as a release. I’m also leaning that taking a few minutes out of my day to seek gratitude for the things I have, doing good deeds or just slowing down and taking a breath works wonders. And the days I’m not doing so well are ok too and if I want to hibernate and watch box sets when I should be at work as that’s the only way I’ll get through, then that’s ok too. I think the key is self love and kindness.12 May, 2019 at 15:17 #487
Couldn’t agree more!13 May, 2019 at 09:38 #492Rach99Participant
I think I might try some of these, clearly my husband doesn’t care about me anymore, just the depths of his issues!13 May, 2019 at 09:39 #493Rach99Participant
I might try some of these, clearly my husband doesn’t care about me anymore, just the depths of his issues!13 May, 2019 at 10:06 #494AmandaKeymaster
Rach99 you don’t sound in the best place right now. It feels to me that you are feeling “unseen”. It’s how I feel when I try to engage with my husband and he doesn’t respond, often just walks off. I call it being seen or not being seen. Right now you’re not being seen. It’s tough, it’s lonely and frankly its frustrating. It’s really hard to remind yourself that it’s not you. That there is something going on for him, that it isn’t voluntary and despite perhaps feeling like you want to whack them round the head and shout “hey I’m here, see me” it’s not their fault. I’m sure he does care and in his moments when he is feeling a bit better he may feel bad about the times he doesn’t see you.
Its an illness, it’s not you and its not reflective of how he feels about you.
We are here for you and we ‘see’ you.2 June, 2019 at 05:51 #618AmandaKeymaster
Hi VSanderd I’ve just re-read your post and picked up on “should”. I agree that “should” is a guilt inducing word which I am working hard on removing from my daily narrative and self talk.
how about replacing it with “could” and then you put yourself in the positive position of making a choice. I could do this or I could do that is a whole lot better than I should do this but I’m doing that.
Words have a lot of power so using different ones can really change how we feel about things. I hope that helps. X
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