Hi VSanderd I’ve just re-read your post and picked up on “should”. I agree that “should” is a guilt inducing word which I am working hard on removing from my daily narrative and self talk.
how about replacing it with “could” and then you put yourself in the positive position of making a choice. I could do this or I could do that is a whole lot better than I should do this but I’m doing that.
Words have a lot of power so using different ones can really change how we feel about things. I hope that helps. X